TC314: Shasta Nelson, author of Frientimacy

TC314: Shasta Nelson, author of Frientimacy

On this week’s show we are pleased to have Shasta Nelson, author of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness, as our guest. Join host Robin Masiewicz and Amy Frost as they discuss Shasta’s book, challenges with friendship for both women and men, and Shasta’s future projects. If you are a follower of the Transformation Cafe podcast, you may have heard our Cafe Book Club episodes covering this great book. If not, now’s your chance to check it out! If you don’t have a copy of this great book, or you want to give one to a loved one, you can support the Transformation-Cafe by purchasing  Frientimacy using this link. It won’t cost you any more, but it helps us to continue providing new content. Thank...

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TC 308: Frientimacy – Envy, Jealousy, and Holding Ourselves Back

TC 308: Frientimacy – Envy, Jealousy, and Holding Ourselves Back

The Cafe Book Club concludes our study of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness by Shasta Nelson. In this episode we talk about the final obstacles to intimacy: Envy and Jealousy. We also discuss the main ideas from the book and how it has affected the way we look at our friendships and ourselves. Frientimacy Recap Here are links to the previous episodes of our Cafe Book Club review of Frientimacy. Chapters 1-2 – The Intimacy Gap Chapters 3-5  – The Frientimacy Triangle, Identifying the 5 Intimacy Gaps and Positivity – Giving and Receiving Chapters 6 -7 –  Consistency – Building Trust and Vulnerability – Deeper Meaning Chapters 8-10 – Leaning into Intimacy – Obstacles Doubting our Self Worth and Fear of...

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TC 307: Frientimacy – The Toxic Friend Trend

TC 307: Frientimacy – The Toxic Friend Trend

In this week’s episode of the Transformation Cafe, host Robin Masiewicz discusses chapter 11 of Frientimacy. This chapter is about Obstacle #3 to Frientimacy: “The Toxic Friend Trend”. As Shasta says in her article in the Huffington Post, not all friendships last forever. “Chances are, only a select few people you are close to now will end up becoming life-long friends. And even those friendships have to change and become something new many times over, as we all go through various life stages and moves. But all friendships should enhance our lives and teach us new ways of loving people, even if they don’t last forever, so it’s important to learn how to leave people better off for having spent time with you.”   Is Your Friend...

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TC 306: Frientimacy – Doubting Our Self-Worth and Fear of Rejection

TC 306: Frientimacy – Doubting Our Self-Worth and Fear of Rejection

The Cafe Book Club continues with our study of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness by Shasta Nelson. In this episode we start Part 3  on Obstacles to Intimacy. Chapter 8 – Leaning into Intimacy, Chapter 9 – Obstacle #1: Doubting Our Self Worth, and Chapter 10 – Obstacle #2: The Fear of Rejection. We all suffer from doubting our own self worth, and from fear of rejection. The question, though, is what can we do about it? About Fear “There are two things about fear that are particularly pertinent to our discussion: 1) It doesn’t distinguish whether it’s based on reality or not; and 2) Many of the fears that plague us are all frequently injurious to relationships.” Leaning into Intimacy...

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TC 305: Frientimacy: Consistency and Vulnerability

TC 305: Frientimacy: Consistency and Vulnerability

In this episode of the Transformation Cafe, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 6 and 7 of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness by Shasta Nelson. This section focuses on the other two sides of the Frientimacy Triangle: Consistency and Vulnerability. Shasta discusses the intimacy gap and other questions in this interview from the Toronto Star: In your book, you talk about an intimacy gap many of us feel in our friendships. What is that, exactly? It’s the gap between what we wish we were experiencing in friendships and what we’re currently experiencing. It speaks to the fact that we all know a ton of people — it’s not a lack of a social life — but we’re not feeling that our friendships are deep or...

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TC 304: The Frientimacy Triangle, Intimacy Gaps, and Positivity

TC 304: The Frientimacy Triangle, Intimacy Gaps, and Positivity

In this episode of the Transformation Cafe, host Robin Masiewicz and co-host Amy Frost discuss chapters 3 – 5 of Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness by Shasta Nelson. This section focuses on the Frientimacy Triangle, Identifying the 5 Intimacy Gaps, and Positivity: Giving and Receiving. “Simply stated, frientimacy is any relationship where two people feel really seen in a way that feels satisfying and safe for both of them.” “So how can we find frientimacy?” For us to feel SATISFIED, we must feel our interaction is rewarding, practicing POSITIVITY with each other. For us to feel SAFE, we must feel some level of trust, practicing CONSISTENCY with each other. For us to feel SEEN, we must be willing...

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